This is a true story that a brave parent made public about her attempt to have a safe party for her teenage son. There are so so many lessons to be learned from this story.
I won't retell the story, this mom does a great job doing it for herself. So these lessons won't make much sense until you read the story.
1. Just because you tell your teen no alcohol and drugs are allowed at the party, doesn't mean there won't BE any drugs and alcohol. And the only way you will know is if you are a presence.
2. Numbers are important. Never have more teens at your home than you can actively supervise. This mom is lucky no drunk teen fell into the pool. Your teen should have to provide you with a list, and entry to the party is always through the front door. Any other exits and entrances to the house should be closely monitored.
3. Teens will stash the booze earlier in the day in shrubs and bushes around the house, so they won't be seen carrying anything in.
4. Understand that teens are impulsive and incredibly motivated to party hearty. Respect for you and your home gets lost in the mayhem.