Happy New Year. Yesterday was a busy day, a record number of calls from parents anticipating troubles in the new year. Perhaps there was "trouble in River City" over the holiday week. Maybe some incidents of drinking or drugs threw you for a loop, or realizing that the last 3 weeks of the term are closing in and there are assignments still unfinished, or maybe you are smack in the middle of the final weeks of college apps, and you and your senior are feeling the anxiety of deadlines. Take a deep breath. Getting all crazy, and starting back on the nagging train will not help. Best to just ease into it slowly, that's what your teen will need to do.
Rather than starting right in with the "did you finish/start/do your__________________? How about using this "I Get It" moment. "Hey honey, what are you dreading most about going back to school?" Just a simple question like that let's your teen know that you get how hard it is to transition back to the daily grind. A little empathy goes a long way. And when they walk in the door after school today, rather than getting right back into the multitude of questions that have plagued you all day about homework, projects and meetings with guidance counselors, give them some space. The first day back pretty much sucks. How many of you were dreading the rush today of alarm clocks, lunches, carpools and that's just the kids stuff, then add to that your work, and your deadlines. See, you and your kids are not all that different. Misery LOVES company!
A few things:
1.This Sunday, Jan 8th I'm back to my Facebook live broadcast Joani's Ten Minute Teen Troubleshooting Parenting Tip. This Sunday is the first in a series of The Four Ways Of Fighting: the Gotcha Ones.
2. Just to remind about my parent coaching services. We can do a phone consult or meet in person if you are in the metropolitan Boston Area. Often parents have a single issue they need help with, and one meeting or phone call does the trick. email me at joani@joanigeltman.com
3. Scheduling seminars for winter/spring. Below are the description of the seminars I have to offer. I speak at schools, for community groups, church and temple groups. I have spoken from coast to coast so location is not a problem! I also speak at many companies and corporations for 1 hour lunchtime seminars for employees. email me at joani@joanigeltman.com
4. Invite me to your house with a group of your friends or the parents of your teen's friends for an Ask The Expert Party. We eat, laugh and and talk about your teens!! email me at joani@joanigeltman.com for information
Joani's Parenting Seminars
College Bound:
Joani’s Top Ten Parenting Tips
A few things:
1.This Sunday, Jan 8th I'm back to my Facebook live broadcast Joani's Ten Minute Teen Troubleshooting Parenting Tip. This Sunday is the first in a series of The Four Ways Of Fighting: the Gotcha Ones.
2. Just to remind about my parent coaching services. We can do a phone consult or meet in person if you are in the metropolitan Boston Area. Often parents have a single issue they need help with, and one meeting or phone call does the trick. email me at joani@joanigeltman.com
3. Scheduling seminars for winter/spring. Below are the description of the seminars I have to offer. I speak at schools, for community groups, church and temple groups. I have spoken from coast to coast so location is not a problem! I also speak at many companies and corporations for 1 hour lunchtime seminars for employees. email me at joani@joanigeltman.com
4. Invite me to your house with a group of your friends or the parents of your teen's friends for an Ask The Expert Party. We eat, laugh and and talk about your teens!! email me at joani@joanigeltman.com for information
Joani's Parenting Seminars
Adolescent
Psychology: The Parent Version
- Learn how the brain affects your teen’s behavior. It’s
the battle of the thinking brain VS the feeling brain.
- Learn Effective strategies for arguing-The Four Ways Of
Fighting.
- Develop effective strategies for keeping your teen safe
as they explore the new world of teen life.
- Learn how to teen-proof your home and cell-proof your
teen
Sexting. Texting and Social Networking: What’s A Parent To
Do?
- Understand how the “emotional brain” of a teen gets
“turned on” by social networking.
- Understand how the “Imaginary Audience” influences your
teen’s performing on social media.
- Learn which apps are safe and unsafe
- Learn strategies to monitor and set limits around phone
and internet use
- Learn how your own behavior with phones and computers
can positively and negatively influence your teen.
Drugs and Alcohol: How Does Your Teen’s Personality Style,
and Your Parenting Style impact their experimentation with drugs and alcohol?
- Identify your teen’s personality style and risk-factors
with drugs and alcohol
- Identify your parenting style and how it influences
your teen’s drug and alcohol use
- Learn effective strategies and scripts to keep your
teen safe
- Understand the emotional journey of your
college bound high school student
- Understand the emotional journey of a
parent of college bound high school student
- Learn strategies for making this process
successful and positive
The secret to parenting is to keep it simple. Learn 10
simple, concrete practical tips useful in those daily moments of stress as a
parent when you wish you had the "right thing to do and the right thing to
say!
With over 30 years of
experience working with families, Joani's approach, using humor, storytelling
and easy to use tools make the job of parenting just a little bit easier.
Joani Geltman MSW
781-910-1770 joanigeltman.com
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